I don't get according to my expectation even after blessings ? Why ? Eg.if a small child want big bunch of gas baluns & you give it then little boy may be flew away with it
So you gave only 2 to 3 baluns to the child because you know the capacity of Child to hold it. Same way guru knows your capacity to receive what you want.
If you use words intelligently with cool mind then words create bridge to heart. But self praising, arrogance & negative words create distance & destruction in relation